Bridget Kavanagh

Editor of RingBureau

About

I'm a 32-year-old marketing manager in Charleston, South Carolina. About two years ago, in the stretch before my partner proposed, I became genuinely obsessive about engagement rings in a way I hadn't predicted and have not really recovered from since.

The research started when I visited three different places inside a few months: a Kay Jewelers on the main commercial strip, a lab-grown online specialist I'd been emailing back and forth, and a local independent jeweler a coworker had mentioned. Each one had a different pitch, different lighting, and a different set of things it was hoping I wouldn't think to ask. The comparison notes I kept turned into something my partner has since described as "an alarming amount of documentation for a decision I was supposed to be making."

My friend Emmeline pushed back on about half my conclusions. She's the person who made me say out loud when a ring actually looked bad on the hand versus just scoring poorly on a spreadsheet. Sunita, who sits one cubicle over at the agency, borrowed my notes when she got engaged six months after I did, then came back with questions I hadn't thought to ask. Mostly financial ones, the kind a practical person asks before anything else.

Since getting engaged, I've been pulled into more than a dozen friends' ring searches. The role is always roughly the same: I'm the one reading the return-policy language before we walk in and asking why the warranty coverage excludes exactly the scenarios you'd actually want covered. The salespeople find this inconvenient. The friends find it useful.

No gemological credentials, no jewelry industry background. What I have is a habit of taking notes, a tolerance for fine print, and two years of asking the same follow-up questions across enough stores and online jewelers that the sales scripts have stopped being surprising.

Written by Bridget Kavanagh

Disclosure

Some links on this site are affiliate links, meaning if you click through and make a purchase, I earn a commission at no extra cost to you. That doesn't change which jewelers I recommend. If a store's return policy is designed to protect the jeweler rather than you, I'll say so, paid link or not.